......JAB WE SELECT

Was looking back @ my last 10 yrs & understanding: ‘Clarity & not Duality’ has genuinely helped me. Guess – this is the code. Either ‘LEAVE it !
’ or be the ‘BEST in it’ .It is just like-“You have a girlfriend or you don’t have..Beech ka kuchh nahi (sort of- friend, crush, munh boli behen,etc.).  Being MEDIOCRE is being ‘NOwhere’ (You end up making more and more sisters). When you decide to live like a ‘Rockstar’ every damn minute of the day – you’ll see destiny ‘getting you accepted’; like that.

I am going to next SHARE with you biggest learning in Life. You have a choice- EITHER to accept it fully OR to waste a few years  and then learn and implement. The biggest secret of productivity / efficiency is:-

Keep DISCIPLINE fixed and revolve the rest of your LIFE around it’. Not the other way round — ‘where you WISH discipline; as you live your normal Life.

e.g. If you have decided that you will spend 30 mins daily pursuing your favorite hobby (By hobby, I don’t mean Engineers Waali) — then — ‘Ye karnaa hai ; chahe Khuch bhee ho jaaye…’ . Baaki sab iskey aas paas.

We see 90% of the youth here –  Time passing / Day Dreaming / Remaining obsessed with Sex / Struggling with ‘People issues’. This is because: –

‘There is DISCIPLINE missing in Life’.  Remain disciplined to your routines / Goals and trust me – there will be no ‘Time’ remaining to pass.

One reason why we remain ‘MEDIOCRE’ :-  We always let our ‘Will Power’ get ruled over by the ‘SWAAD / CHASKA’ aspects of our life. e.g. Would it matter after a few years -‘Who won in the match between Mumbai Indians & Royal Challengers Bangalore’? or your FB Status or ‘People issues’ or your hairstyle which you feel so much worried about. ,or the fact that “Har ek friend zaruri hota hai”

Reduce the ‘SWAD / CHASKA’ & see yourself ‘Rising & Shining…’.DISCIPLINE ….Yes !!! That’s it !

Ten Utility ways to raise your Productivity / Efficiency:  

• 1.
• Strongly believe in ‘starts’, ‘starts of the days’.  ‘Morning’ = ‘More + Inning’. It is the chance that God gives us to play more out of an inning everyday.

We can generate hazaar killer confidence with a ‘great start’ to our day. It helps us remain in ‘MAUJ’, the whole day then. Vijay Maalya while addressing students @ an IIM said:-‘Don’t spend much time in the bed, as only prostitutes’ make money out there’. Mornings should be to celebrate silence, celebrate the nature’s prodigality.

2. It is SO MUCH about —‘What you EAT’ :- Any small tablet which we take when we fall ill – does so much inside our body – that we get cured. So imagine what bad food would be doing ??? We just EAT & keep on Eating ; as if there is an invisible Rakshash (ghostly demon) sitting inside our stomachs and seeking his quota of food & pleasure. Do simple 4 things (considering that these are v much doable by anyone):-

1. Eat less — this is the secret.
2. Do not eat after 10pm
3. Drink lots of Water
4. Jabardasti add Fruits & Green vegetables to your diet. An apple costs much less than your educated Burger.

3.

• How many times in a day do you get this feeling – ‘ Wow! I am improving my Efficiency!’ ?  Saying such positively affirmative words to your own self some 4-5 times in a day will permanently set this ‘efficiency chip in your mind’. This can happen when you focus on the ‘intelligent FEW’ rather than the ‘Boring MANY’ aspects of your own.

4.

• We take too little responsibility for addressing our ‘CORE’ needs- We dissipate too much energy in Blame, Complaint & Finger pointing. SO much busy we are in getting things done that we forget to pause & ask ourselves:– ‘Is this really what I want’- ‘Am I putting my Time & Energy at the right place’ ..

Woh kaam hee kyun karne ; jinko karne kee zaroorat nahin hai.People are just too caught in ‘imaginary troubles’ than the ‘real troubles’… Hota nahin hai – phir bhi aiwayein banaya hota hai   

5.

• We are too much caught in impressing people around by trying to look / sound ‘COOL’. This results in us being permanently caught in the web of ‘people issues’. This is your YOUTH. To whom do you grant the power to tell you what to do with a chunk of your YOUTH ? Don’t give this power to people around. Mind is a terrible thing to waste to people around. Especially the people — who wouldn’t even matter after a few years.

Oops! We see people irreparably getting into the habit of ‘finding a problem with/ commenting about / discussing uselessly’ anyone who is ‘NOT LIKE THEM’.Gandey tareekay se phans rahey ho — agar ye aadat pad rahi hai !

6.

• ‘The law of Conservation of energy’ & smart decisions about ‘Where to put that energy’ are the two most intelligent decisions you can make – if u r to get better…The biggest ‘IRONY’ with us is that ‘WE KNOW what will give us pain’; & we still ‘DO IT’…!!

Zindagi mein kaam aur Zindagi kay ‘mudday (issues)’ kabhi khatam nahi hotay. ‘State of mind’ sudharna apne haath mein hai.

Almost everything; trust me EVERYthing around us is feeding our mind into the ‘HABIT’ of feeling the ‘EXCITEMENT’ every hour of the day. Media, Cricket, F1, Movies, Opposite sex, Facebook, College Fests, etc.. I feel worried!! as withdrawal symptoms of all this will be tough ! EXCITEMENT is very different from HAPPINESS. Happiness is all that you get when you are en-route your Goals. Rest everything is EXCITEMENT. Zindagi me SHAANTI (Sukoon,peace) is Happiness..Zindagi me SHAANTI(Ladki) is excitement..

7.

Limit your internet to max half-an-hour day. ‘Don’t update your FB status unnecessarily. First, make one.It is always better to UP-GRADE your Real-life Status than UP-date your FB one. If you start spending 50% of your internet time; ‘talking sincerely, lovingly & deeply’ with your parents / family – DIVINITY will start flowing in your life. We need emotions around to balance our web lives.

8.

Talk less. Take out from your life — the useless talk that we have got into the habit of ‘so much doing’. The secret code of Communication: – ‘Talk about others more than talking about your own self’. Trust me — no one is interested in your stories. Only bore people ‘talk about themselves’. Do not take ‘what people comment about you’; very seriously. One Life — trust me — it wouldn’t matter. Laugh it off — instead of reacting.

9.

Definitely be good to others but your agenda here is not to please people & remember -their agenda is also not to please you. You simply need to get your damn job DONE & while in the process if you please or displease people; LET IT BE.

Instead of trying to upgrade the people around; work on upgrading YOURSELF.

Today decide to carry with you ONLY that which ADDS to your confidence.Baaki ‘Subtract’ maaro !  

In fact the whole concept of ‘har aek friend zaroori hota hai’ is useless.

‘Har ek friend Zaroori NAHIN hota hai’
Aur naa hee  
‘Jo tera hai wo Mera HOTA hai’…

Asli zindagi mein ‘Badi se badi mehfil mein bhi Insaan akela hee hota hai aur sirf apna haunslaa hee sirf apna hota hai…’

“Woh ladki mere baare me kya soch rahi hogi??” / “ Usne mera Update LIKE kiya; Kya iska matlab yeh hai ki who mujhe LIKE karti hai??” . We have become a bigger social worker than Mother Teresa because we think more about our friends than we think about our own lives.

10. 

• Make a list of 5 things- which dissipate / diffuse / waste / lessen your energies. Now make a list of 5 things which enhance your energies. The trick is simple. Do more of latter and reduce the former. Simple; as this! Whenever the traffic of the ‘details of LIFE & LIVING’ becomes very heavy – ‘CREATE Flyovers ‘…. & Wrooooom !!

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Rise & Shine…

But — ‘Laziness + ‘No Action’ = More Laziness!’ Jab pataa hai kee ye kaam karnaa hai ; karnaa hee padegaa – to kyun naa Khush hokar karein..?

thanks all......!!! 

-Sumit Awasthi